May 29, 2014

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Relationship Trends

I came across this article and found it interesting and provided my feedback for each one.. would love to hear what you all have to say about these new Relationship Trends

Source: 8 Future Relationship Trends – MSN.com

This article orginally appeared on YourTango.com: Fast Forward: 8 Future Relationship Trends That’ll Suprise You

1. People Will Be Pickier
Settling is totally a thing for generations past. The future will be all about people having a checklist of deal breakers who aren’t afraid to adhere to them. This will also mean that the actual relationship quality will matter even more, too. As it should be now, but I guess people are going to step it up on that end.

I couldn’t agree more! I have gotten a lot of kick-back for being “too picky” but I REFUSE to settle for less than I am looking for and don’t feel that I should have to. There is someone out there for me that has the qualities I’m looking for and I shouldn’t have to feel bad for holding out for that person.

 

2. Independence Will Be Paramount
People no longer want to live for someone else, but live for themselves instead, and in doing so, they’re putting themselves first and foremost. Forty percent of those surveyed preferred to stave off co-habitating as a means to retain their independence, while “realizing individual goals will continue to increase.”

 

I definitely believe that you should put yourself first – if you are not happy and confident in yourself and the value of your own life – someone else isn’t going to just magically fix that. Get right with yourself first.

 

3. Couples Therapy Will Be The Norm
According to EliteSingles psychologist, Dr. Wiebke Neberich, couples are now more willing, than ever, to recognize issues as their relationship complexities grow and deal with them, instead of just bailing. Finally! A world where therapy might lose its awful stigma! What a dream!

Although I don’t agree that this should be the “norm” – I do like that more people are willing to go see a therapist to try and work through their issues before just taking the easy way out and getting a divorce. I think it is healthy for couples to get unbiased feedback for their problems and try to become a stronger couple before just calling it quits. 

 

4. Living Separately Will Be More Desirable
Living together? Forget it. You have that awesome one-bedroom of yours for a reason, so hang on to it as long as you can. In fact, 60% were all about living alone, because, well, independence, freedom, and not sharing a bed, obviously.

Hmmm.. If you are just in a relationship and not married, I can see how this one is becoming a trend however, I think once you make that leap into marriage it would be very odd to not live together.

 

5. Marriage Will Be About “Experience” Instead Of “Support”
Once an accepted means of “survival,” marriage is no longer steeped in being a necessity thing. Those who marry will do it for reasons other than security and tradition, like for the experience of it.

So on board with this one! Too often people get married for the wrong reasons. You should get married because this person adds to your life and helps you grow and experience more than you could do on your own. Not because you need the tax break, second income or to please society.

 

6. Serial Monogamy Will Be All The Rage.
Although the EliteSingles survey found that people still believe in “the one,” and 85 percent WANTED a life partner, only 45 percent believe in having just one life partner was a possibility. As Dr. Neberich explains, “the future is one in which people have a number of different, shorter-term partners.” This was especially true for women over 45, while those under 35 were still a bit more apt to hang on to the idea of one partner. In this case, although not scientifically proven, romantic comedies are clearly to blame.

I think this one will work different for each person. There are definitely some people that are not meant to be with just one person and these shorter-term partners are the perfect option for them. However there are also people that want to be with just one person and can make that work. I think whatever works for you – do it, be honest, don’t cheat and have fun!

 

7. Being Single Will No Longer Have A Cliché Age.
Once just the stuff of people in their 20s and 30s, the future will be chalk full of single of  “all age groups as people become single at several points in their life,” because you know, all that serial monogamy is going on. Maybe double dates with mom?

FINALLY! This stigma with age being associated with marriage/family has always been an issue for me. Why does it matter if it takes someone longer to be ready for that step in their life or to find the one worth making that step? We don’t all fall in love and live happily ever after in our 20’s…

 

8. Online Dating Will Reign Supreme.
As we hide further and further behind the comfortable walls that technology has built and we have less time to make actual in-person contact, online dating will not only become more and more the norm, but will be regarded as a “traditional” way to meet people. I wonder if this means the creeps on OKCupid will quit being, well, creepy? Let’s hope so, for the sake of womankind. anyway.

 As someone who has tried my share of online dating, I can see why this is a trend that will continue. It’s easy to meet MANY people very quickly, go on a lot of dates and HOPE to find someone that makes it all worth while – however, (from my experience) most of those dates are disappointing because people have not been honest about who they are in some way or another, have no personality, simply don’t click with you or just want to hook up. Maybe as this becomes more and more the way to meet someone – people will become more honest and you might actually have better luck finding someone you actually connect with and would be interested in dating long term.

My advice to men and woman doing online dating – be honest about what you are looking for upfront, have current photos of yourself (nothing older than 6 months), be yourself from the beginning – It’s easy for people to hide behind the computer or text message and try to be someone they aren’t, but the minute you meet in person all of that is exposed and last but not least … guys..for god sake.. PLEASE take the girl(s) you are interested in on an actual date! (hanging out at your house does not count as a date).

 

 

 

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